Sunday, 27 March 2016

WHO ARE WE?

I am pretty sure all of us have heard a lot about women rights, gender equality, etc in the past few months and some of us are a little fed up of the whole topic by now. It is precisely for that reason that I will talk about it. I won’t bring in stats and numbers to make my point, because neither am I accurately aware of them nor am I the best person to explain them and moreover I do believe that the issue is much larger than that, its basic mentality of society that needs to be questioned.

Let me start by talking the tone most of us would understand, I will give you selfish reasons of why we should not discriminate against women in any way at all:

  Just to put into perspective the important and pivotal role that women play in our lives and how they touch it in truly magnificent ways.  When you are low, going through a tough time, totally down and out then a woman will comfort you, she will try and cheer you up but at the same time they are not in the habit to sugar coat words, they will give it to you as it is and will be brutally honest. It is because they are sagacious and they know that if they truly want to help us out they have to show us the true picture and they are not afraid of telling us our mistakes or our reactions to their criticism.       They are the true mirror that we need in our lives, showing us the amount of shit we are in but at the same time also revealing that we have it in us to overcome the mess. Of course I don’t believe that the above is their most important role or their best quality, far from it, but it’s one I really admire. Maybe I shouldn't have started out with this point as it makes my perspective look a like a typical one of that women are only good at this,but read on I have destroyed that perspective myself, or atleast tried to. Women are much more than this but this is one of their many qualities that i really admire and I felt like starting off with it.
  Whenever I hear about women being denied positions at work or their capabilities being undermined in any sphere of life, be it school, college, work, home or society in general then it’s me who questions our basic IQ level as a species.  A lot of people say that women are equal to men, but I think they are better.
  They are much more practical without a doubt; they know how to spend money better and also to get the best price for things, so companies should not  discriminate against women if they truly want to succeed, on the contrary they should boost their growth.
  I strongly advocate higher inclusion of women in armed forces around the world and at higher echelons as well. Reason being, that if a nation shows it trusts its women to defend its nation then it has a trickle-down effect on the society as a whole, people will start seeing women in  different light.
Women deserve equality in relationships as well. Be it father- daughter, brother – sister, girlfriend-boyfriend or husband and wife. They are the bedrock of the relationship; they are the ones who keep it going through the good and bad times.  Without them the relationship would not survive more than a season.
  Furthermore they deserve the freedom to go out at night, alone or in groups, wearing whatever they desire and with absolute freedom from fear. Imagine a club without any women, not so appealing is it now?
  Above I have listed some of the benefits of stopping discrimination against women. However even if none of the above “benefits” were true, who are we to stop them getting anything. So here is my main point. Who are we to allow women to work? Who are we to stop them doing the same? Who are we to raise our hands on their skin? Who are we to include them in the workforce or exclude them from driving a damn car? Who are we to stop them going out at night? Who are we to allow them equal rights as us to our father’s property? Who are we to force physical relations on them? Who are we to stop them giving an opinion on matters of the house, the nation, the economy, etc?  Who are we to stop them growing at work? Who are we to stop them drinking alcohol or smoking a cigarette? Who are we to stop our daughter to spend a night at her friends place but to allow our son to do just that?
  A lot of people say that gender equality is about giving women equal rights and status as men. But I could not disagree more. For me gender equality is attained when we don’t give women equal rights and nor do they have to take the same, but it should be something so basic to humanity as a whole that they are born with it. The moment we say we will give women equal rights; it automatically states that we are in a higher position and that defeats the purpose.
For me the greatest show of our “manhood” is in chivalry. Never raise your hands on a woman, never abuse a woman, no matter what the provocation (should follow this with everyone to be honest but especially women), never make her feel smaller than you (she is so not.), rise up to her and never ever drag her down. Respect the women in your life, cherish them and be grateful for them, for you have no idea how much life would suck without them. Lastly never drag her to a point where she has to retaliate, only because I think you love your safety and “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”.


A big thank you to all the women who are and have ever been in my life, you’ve made me the man I am today and I will be forever grateful.  Women are beautiful, women are the best and they will always be better than us.